The Christian Man and Relationships

By Michael Smith

Last Friday I had a long phone conversation with an old friend mainly on the topic of relationships. In that conversation, we hit on a couple of verses that I wanted to share with everyone. Both my friend and I are men. This article is written by and for men; but women are welcome to read along. Read close, this is some powerful stuff.

Ephesians 5:22-25:
“22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her”
Here is one that hits like a ton of bricks. Everyone makes a big fuss over verses 22-24; and they are a big deal but men, let’s look at verse 25. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” This is not just some “throw-away” verse or phrase. This is POWERFUL stuff.  Verses 22-24 tells the wives to summit to their husband but this (verse 25) tells husbands to love your wives as much as Christ loves the church. …um Christ loves the church (us) so much that he DIED for it. …DIED FOR IT! FOR US! We are supposed to love our wives THAT much. Keep that in mind and replay your last argument that you had with your wife back in your head. Keep in mind what Christ did for the church and think about the last conversation you had with your wife. (Really think about it) …like I said, powerful stuff.

James 1:19
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”
Now let’s keep Ephesians 5:25 in our heads and look at James 1:19. It says, in short, be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger. I find it interesting that the first item on this list is “quick to listen”. It has been my experience (not just with my wife but in any argument) that no one listens. Everyone is talking, yelling, shouting but no one is listening. …because no one is listening, tempers start to flare. It has also been my experience that many words could have been spared (and just as many hard feelings) if I had stopped talking and started listening. We are commanded to love our wives; I think it’s a good place to start if we are quick to listen to what she has to say; slow to speak (That means THINK about what you heard); and be slow to anger (mind your temper).

We are (adopted) children of God through baptism into Jesus Christ. You are a son of God; your wife is a daughter of God; treat her like one.